To all my trans guys and gals. This one is for you

I was supposed to post this for trans visibility day but it took longer than I thought.

Hate starts young. Kids are being taught to be violent towards trans people. Recently many trans teens have been attacked by other kids. The most recent reported transphobic attack done by children was done by a group of 10 youths around 12 years old. The children who were attacked were only 3 years old. They were targeted because their father is a transgender man.

The toddlers were reportedly subjected to verbal and physical abuse after a group of about 10 youths, aged around 12, tripped and pushed them, while they were in park. The youths also launched transphobic insults at the youngsters, making fun of their father before he moved in to take them home.

The twins didn’t know what to do. They’re only three. One of these young people had pulled one of the girls off one of the rides in the park at the outset which really upset her. They followed them out of the park at Glenbryn and started tripping them up. One of the twins was pushed into a wall and hit her head. It was so upsetting and frightening for these children and their dad.

Belfast trans woman Adrianne Elson, who has spoken out before on issues affecting the trans community, said the incident was “horrific.” She said: “These were children themselves doing this, some of them around 12-years-old, who should have known better but it went on and on as they tried to go home. They were saying to the twins ‘your dad’s a girl’ at first and laughing but it just got worse and worse and more and more threatening.”

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Straight cisgender people will go "Why don't we get pride?? We're unique too!!"

Yeah but have you ever had to look up if it's illegal to go on your vacation trip just because of who you love?

Were you not allowed to marry the person you love years ago?

Have looked at the we have the right to refuse service to anyone sign and get nervous?

Are you being discriminated against even in you own community because you don't want to love (aro/aces deserve double pride or smth idk)

Have you been denied by a doctor because you're trans and it's 'too complicated'?

Are cishet people being harassed and murdered because they're cishet?

We've fought for our place and we're still fighting. When you have to do that then you can have pride.

Love you guys 💙💛

there really is a cultural pressure for transmascs & men to detransition, and it comes from all sides. it comes from the queer community too, not just terfs and cishet transphobes.

it took me a while to realize why transphobic people and transandrophobic queers utterly despise trans guys & mascs who are over the age of like 25- it's because it pisses them right off that we've resisted their attempts to make us detransition. it makes them so angry to see they were unable to groom that person into a life of self-shame and repression. it really seems like MOST people believe that trans men will just detransition eventually in life? people NEVER think about older trans men, only teenage trans boys and trans men in their very early twenties.

when i was involved with my local punk scene i was addressed with condescension, almost everyone around me didn't accept transmasculinity as a legitimate identity and thought that we would've transitioned by now in life. i encountered folks who would talk about transmasculinity with subtle disgust that made me feel like i was doing something wrong, and people who expressed overt disgust, saying in plain english that they were disgusted by breasts and vaginas because they were gay men. all along the way i was literally mocked for not having a penis, and one of my roommates started treating me differently once they found out i didn't have one (because they were attracted to me)

i've been on T for 9 years, and been out as a trans man for a bit longer than that, and i noticed as i've aged i've also attracted a lot of folks who have tried to deter me from identifying as a trans man, either through directly telling me that trans men are inherently dangerous, or by implying that women or another gender are safer, quieter, calmer, "less traumatizing to be around," etc. one of my exes told me they were terrified to date me (despite literally going out of their way to do so for over half a year) because they were scared i would be transphobic to them because i'm a transmasculine lesbian.

i received pressure from online friends to either detransition and become an intersex butch woman, or to something feminine adjacent or nonbinary. for years i dealt with a few friends who kept subtly hinting that i should stop identifying as a trans man or trans masc because of how awful transmascs are- going as far as to sending me screenshots of transmascs speaking, complaining about them and calling them whiny, annoying. talking about how all transmascs are entitled, how all transmascs take things too personally, how we complain too much, and so on.

people make no effort to make space for transmascs and men. i met 0 transmascs in my local punk community that i was able to stay in contact with. none. i met a few in passing but none that actually were introduced to me in a capacity where i could actually try to befriend them. it really felt like other punks in the scene were desperately trying to keep the transmascs apart at times. excuses were made as to why i couldn't hang out with other transmascs i liked, but i was constantly being forced to befriend transphobic cis gay men and transandrophobic transfemmes who outwardly expressed hatred and disgust of us. it really felt like it was on purpose... almost as if other members of this community wanted our attention, but never wanted us to give each other attention or a sense of community. like we were objects, not people to be included in the community for real. satellite friends, if you will.

i'll be honest with you. i was at my lowest at this point. i realized i wasn't just a trans man and that i'm a genderqueer person who experiences multiple genders, including womanhood and an "other" gender, which was great. however now i was being forced to completely stuff down being a man for the sake of other people. instead of folks telling me they'd rather not hang out with transmascs, folks rather just attempted to guilt me for identifying as such in the hopes i'd stop identifying that way. i was being told daily that trans men and mascs are inherently violent and terrible to be around. i was in discord servers where transmascs were being kicked constantly for getting even slightly upset about transandrophobia, or being unfairly targeted by staff.

it's violence, but nobody wants to call it that. i pulled myself out of there and am now able to contact other transmascs and trans men who are proud of who they are and have elevated me back into a headspace where it's okay to truly be myself. just keep in mind that if you feel like you're in that situation, you're not alone. people who attempt to groom others are often very subtle it's not always up front. they will start slipping in hateful sentiments very slowly and make you feel like maybe they're the ones who are actually right.

it feels good to be an almost 32 year old trans guy. there's nothing to be ashamed about there. people project their feelings on to my gender and that has nothing to do with me. it has nothing to do with you, either. people will just project on to you for whatever reason- hatred is usually the motivator there. if you encounter folks who keep trying to badger you out of identifying as your gender, no matter who you are, transmasc, transfemme, transneutral, trans anything- they are not good for you. they are not your friends. they do not accept you as you are and you deserve so much better.

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Reblog 🙏

Trans people being denied proper care can lead to self harm and is an act of oppression. Recently an 18 year old trans man tried to do at home top surgery. He was stuck on a years long waiting list for gender affirming surgery. If he had proper access to therapy and gender affirming care this never would’ve happened.

A New Zealand high schooler attempted to cut off his own breast in an “act of desperation” after years on a stretched public health system wait list for gender-affirming surgery, according to a report in the New Zealand Medical Journal today. The 18-year-old female-to-male transgender man went to hospital several hours into the self-attempted mastectomy after he became concerned about damaging a nerve. Photos showed a deep cut around his entire left breast, which was later surgically removed along with the teen’s untouched right breast, the report’s authors wrote.

After a surgery to remove the rest of his damaged breast tissue and his other breast his mental health improved. Him being refused gender affirming care lead to him doing dangerous at home surgery.

“He reported improvement in self-esteem and self-confidence and his ability to complete school work, and was looking forward to enrolling at university.”

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