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theacecouple · 6 months

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Many Aces go through a process where they learn what society conventionally considers "sexy" and learn how to feign sexual attraction, without experiencing it themselves, based on those standards. This is known as "hacking the allo-gorithm"

#ace #asexual #asexuality #aces #ace community #ace pride #asexual community #asexual pride #lgbtqia #funny #jokes #ace humor #asexual humor #the more you know

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acexualien · 23 days

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indianasexuals · 7 months

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Courtney Lane, a disabled Asexual woman proposed the idea to dedicate Wednesday of Asexual Awareness Week to the disabled Asexual people.

We @indianasexuals embrace our disabled Indian Asexuals. You're valid, you're welcome and you're part of our family.

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#aceweek2023 #asexuals #asexuality

#asexuality #aces #lgbtqia #asexual #acespec #ace_meet #queer #arospec #aceweek2023 #aceweek

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decolonize-the-left · 1 year

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Ive seen an influx in posts asking the LGBT community to hold itself accountable for ace/aro bigotry and they're fucking right.

How are we supposed to hold homophobes and transphobes accountable and demand they do better when we won't even do that for each other?

We're a community right? A family who's supposed to look out for each other? What happened to everyone being valid? Is a sibling saying "you hurt me, please correct it somehow" not valid?

For my part I'll admit I was part of this.

I was on the side of the asexual exclus back in the late 00's/early 10's. I was deep in the belief that oppression had to be systematic in order to count and at the time I didn't see any systematic oppression faced by aces. I even identified as ace and I didn't consider myself oppressed for being asexual. I saw the hostility and vitriol directed at aces everyday...but I didn't see it as wrong. I didn't see it as bigotry. I saw it as righteous anger.

I know how awful things were because I was one of the people making them that way. There is Real trauma that was experienced. There's no fucking way that a normal person could be invalidated that much and take the vitriolic bigotry aces/aros did everyday and have it not leave a lasting impact.

I fucked up. That was wrong and awful of me and I'm genuinely so fucking sorry.

I see the broken trust and promises between us now in 2023 and I see how shattered the community is and it's partly my fault. That gap is there because of me and people like me.

We should have loved and supported and welcomed you. We should have saw the way you were being treated and said something. You deserved to be protected and loved and supported from people who treated you that way.

And you weren't. We didn't. And it was normalized.

We absolutely fucking failed you as a community and as human beings. I need to own that. And I need to be one of the first people to trying to repair that.

And I know an apology is barely even a first step and I know it's just a drop in a giant bucket but I am sorry. For everything it's worth to you, I'm sorry.

Because of me and people like me you experienced the kind of identity trauma that typically only homophobes are capable of. And you experienced it at the hands of the community that's supposed to be fighting specifically that sort of ignorance against a-typical sexualities.

We fucked up

And it'd just be hypocritical salt in the wound if 10+ years later we ignored your asks for accountability and didn't do anything about it when it's resurfacing.

So yeah.

I was a bigot. I hurt people. I hurt my own community. I thought I was right and I wasn't. I was wrong. And so is everyone who insists on continuing that today.

There is no excuse or justification for it. I thought there was too but I was wrong and I'm gonna spend the rest of my life making up for it.

Whatever justification you find for treating people with a-typical sexualities and genders is shit. It has no leg to stand on and it sure as hell isn't being done for the sake of the community.

The LGBT community was founded not by people with checklists on how to be a Good Gay or Acceptable trans woman but by people being treated like shit for who they were choosing to love or not love. It was founded by people who's gender didn't fit in cishet boxes. It was founded by people who just wanted to be free to exist as themselves.

You can't treat asexuals or aros or bisexuals or pansexuals like shit and say that it's in the name of the LGBT community.

It's not.

It spits in the face of everything our community is supposed to be and it's time someone besides aces and aros said it.

None of us should be okay with how they're treated and all of us should be part of stopping it

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isabellascarlett1 · 7 months

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80% of Asexuals have experienced sexual violence.

50% of Aces aren’t out to doctors & 20% say being out negatively impacted their care.

Only 25% of Aces are out to friends.

10% of Aces have been offered conversion therapy.

Ace Week may be over, but advocacy must continue.

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orwellsunderpants · 5 months

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I honestly can't wait to see what's gonna happen in fandom the first time somebody makes a romcom with explicitly ace or aroace characters and at the end they don't have sex but still are in a fullfilling relationship.

I can't wait to see what the allos are gonna do with that, how they're going to react to the first romcom that isn't actually either for or about them.

#romcom #aces #asexual #aspec #aroace #somebody needs to make this #we deserve it goddammit

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gabbytalksalot · 7 days

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Ate 🙏🏽🙏🏽

#kate money martin #kate martin #iowa wbb #iowa hawkeyes #wnba #wnba basketball #wnba draft #wnbaedit #las vegas aces #aces #caitlin clark #indiana fever #kate martin x reader #basketball #ncaa wbb #wbb #wcbb

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eclecticelectriceccentric · 3 months

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btw the aphobia on this site is very much still alive. in so many of our tags, you'll find people mocking our terms and our very queerness and identies.

aros and aces and apls are here and queer. aspecs, i love you <3. i love our terms and concepts. they're beautiful. we're beautiful.

#aphobia #aromantic #aro week #aces #aspec #apls #aplatonic #asexual #aro

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ifwebefriends · 16 days

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I don’t really have anything to add here honestly

[Video ID. A clip from Phineas and Ferb: The Movie: Across the 2nd Dimension where everyone is fighting 2nd dimension Doofenshmirtz’s robot army using Phineas and Ferb’s inventions, but the clip is played at 3.4 times speed. The song Robot Riot by Love Händel from the same movie is playing at normal speed. There’s top and bottom text in white boxes with black letters in all capital impact font. The top text says “aspec ppl mass reporting bots” and the bottom text says “in the #asexual tag” End ID]

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odinsblog · 8 months

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Kazakh Steppe

#kazakh steppe #horses #nature #pontic steppe #pontian steppe #aces

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charly1902 · 1 month

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There is people who says that Charles is straight... just please come on look at this boy 😭

#dead boy detective agency #edwin payne #charles rowland #dead boy detectives #lgbtqia #pansexual #bisexual #aces

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theacecouple · 7 months

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Happy Ace Week! We've got our cake and we're ready to dig in!

Learn more about the history and significance of cake in the Asexual community in Courtney's article for Bon Appetit!

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acexualien · 26 days

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I made an Aspec Songs playlist that you can listen to on Spotify! Check it out :)

Feel free to recommend even more Aspec songs!

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indianasexuals · 3 months

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Gathering Strength in Diversity: New Delhi Asexual Meetup March 2024! 🌟

In the heart of the city, we found solidarity, understanding, and acceptance. Our voices resonate, our identities celebrated.

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#asexualpride #asexual #asexuality #indianasexuals #asexuals

#asexuality #aces #lgbtqia #asexual #acespec #queer #ace_meet #arospec #indianaces #aromantic

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decolonize-the-left · 3 months

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the online lgbt space would be a lot better off if people were disincentivized from framing all interpersonal drama along lines of oppression. like so much transmisogyny that i see from other trans people gets justified as being a reaction to oppression rather than a logical line of: if you don't have trans women in your community the only trans women you're seeing are on your timeline because they're popular, and popular people are just more likely to be bullies and assholes. (and tbh it probably happens the other way around for people who don't actually hang out with trans men, but i am speaking from a transmasc pov seeing this exact thought pattern happen a lot to trans guys in my community.) being a bully isn't tied to their identity, people are just being exposed to cruel people in a system where cruelty is rewarded ie social media, and seeing what looks to them like a community of bigots reinforces the existing prejudices that they haven't unlearned

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This is exactly why the TERF pipeline starts with excluding aces. That's Exactly what it is. Preying on prejudices that some queers haven't unlearned or had a chance to unlearn yet.

That's why aces get accused of stealing community resources and get called "straight with extra steps." To create a chasm that suggests others should view aces as people who cause harm to the rest of the queer community (which they also base off of 'sex based oppression')

It's easy to fall prey to and feel justified about if you haven't already learned the bit of queer theory that teaches you how ALL queer people are queer enough to be here and have a voice because we systematically don't hurt each other.

Lesbians as a community don't hurt trans women, transphobes do.

Gay men as a community don't hurt women, misogynists do

Bi nbs as a community don't hurt lesbians, homophobes do.

Trans men as a community don't hurt trans women, transphobes do

Asexuals as a community don't hurt the LGBTs, queerphobes do.

That said, our identities as queer people don't prevent us from occasionally hurting each other or perpetuating ideas that we ourselves have been hurt by. Gay men can be misogynists, but that does not mean gay men systematically oppress women. Them being gay is incidental to them being misogynists.

Much like how lesbians can be TERFs, but the statement 'lesbians systematically hurt trans people' would be untrue. Lesbians aren't attacking trans people, transphobes are.

Anyone saying anything else is trying to trick you into fighting your siblings and dividing us up so we won't be willing to protect each other the next that our oppressors attack us. They'd love that. So don't buy it.

We survive this long because of community, not in spite of it. Don't lose focus of the real enemy.

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isabellascarlett1 · 10 months

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Asexual Sex Workers are loved 💗

Hypersexual Asexuals are loved 💗

Kinky Asexuals are loved 💗

Polyamorous Asexuals are loved 💗

Asexuals who wear revealing clothes are loved 💗

Asexuality is a spectrum, and it’s okay to have a more complicated relationship to sex and relationships.

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